Say no to Bull

Say no to Bull

Sunday morning blog time. Please sip something tasty and read my thoughts on this fine March morning.

I have recently had an “aha” moment that really spoke to me.

So often in life we tend to get stuck working the grind. Life can feel monotonous and can lose the spark of spontaneity. And that sense of repetition can be comforting for us. We can predict how we are going to feel throughout the day and know that there probably won’t be any big surprises. It’s playing safe and I love the quote:

“A ship is safe in the harbour, but that is not the purpose of a ship…”

Do you have gifts to give others? Yes. Do you have talents? Yes. Do you have time to invest in yourself to grow and evolve? Yes…. Until you don’t.

If you’re stuck in a rut, change course. I know that it can be easier said than done but unless you’re really subconsciously enjoying the “misery loves company” disease trap that we can blindly fall into, do something different to get out of it.

Things that you know will help are to eat better, read uplifting stories, move your body, volunteer, become part of a community group, contribute to society, journal gratitude, stop focusing on the doom and gloom, etc…Do something different if you want something different!! I know that it can be hard when you don’t even have that will inside you to do that, but I cannot stress enough just to do a baby step here and there. Something is always better than nothing.

I’m not here to tell you how to reprogram your brain but I do know from personal experience, that what we put our thoughts toward, more of that will be apparent in our lives. (*currently putting my thoughts toward chocolate*).

I have been in deep sadness for bouts of time myself and I understand it, but I also know how vital it is to not dwell.

The mini story that I love is about the wolf of anger and the wolf of love. Which wolf grows bigger in your life? Anger or love? I’ll tell you a secret….it’s the one you feed.

We have all had horrific events in our lives. We have all had beautiful events in our lives. This life is a Great Mural of many colours that contribute to our Life’s Masterpiece.

Everyone has personal thought processes on how they react to events and experiences in their lives. We all are at different places and have different perspectives.

But, if you want joy, you’re going to have to do some work. You’re going to have to face some demons from your past and move through it. But you have to want it more than what you’ve got right now.

Don’t let your mind imprison you. You were created for far much more than that.

Be gentle with your progress.

Tipping my hat to you and your journey,

Lindsay M.


Big Love

Big Love

Sunday morning blog time. Please grab whatever beverage of choice you need to sit with my thoughts for the next while. I’m sipping on earl grey tea while relishing that I have a glorious day off.

We all emit a certain vibe about us. Some of us operate from a place of love and some of us operate from a place of fear.

People who operate from a place of love are delighted when others around them are succeeding. They are innately aware that they have inner joy within and blessings and abundance surrounding them and they can flow freely their support and encouragement because they understand that there’s enough for everyone. And, in turn, their lives usually have extra richness to them because they’re not wallowing in their own….fear.

People who operate from fear ( and I’m not talking about phobia fears but, rather, a place of negativity and self unawareness), are nervous when others around them start succeeding and they deem themselves not to be. They can become angry and judgemental because they want to pull those people down to the “prison” that they’re in. They focus too much energy on not having and we have lived here long enough to inherit the knowledge that what we focus on, we see that or attract that more in our lives.

I believe that what I write today is something you probably have heard before. But, let’s get to the root of it:

Why do some people operate mostly from a fear based place—no matter their upbringing, spiritual beliefs, and environment?

Why do some people operate mostly from a love based place—no matter their upbringing, spiritual beliefs, and environment?

A lot of it is what your relationship to yourself is and where you focus your attention.

Yes, we have all been hurt before. We have all been kicked when we are down. We have all not coped very well at times. In turn, we have all had encouragement, loved ones, affirmations, and joy before.

Sometimes the scales aren’t balanced. And sometimes the scales feel unbalanced for too long in a way that you don’t agree with.

My encouragement for you this week is to look within and ask yourself where you feel you are mostly coming from with your intentions toward life, people, and yourself?

If the answer comes up and it’s from mostly fear base, be gentle on yourself and know that you can make small steps in a direction that leans more toward a place of love and self love. Your world as you know it will start to change and bloom.

This is your journey through life and you may as well have all the beauty that is there for the offering. You are so worthy to have it and share it with others.

You are a gift to this world, no matter how big or small your reach is.

I challenge you to love.

With love(that word keeps popping up a lot, doesn’t it? 😉),

Lindsay M.

It has to Hurt if it’s Going to Heal

It has to Hurt if it’s Going to Heal

Sunday morning blog time, my friends. Please grab your morning “pick me up” and glimpse into my thoughts for a few minutes. I’m sipping on a green matcha tea surrounded by boxes,bins, and bags awaiting in anticipation for my upcoming move.

I think a change will do you good.

Are you freaking out by that statement? Even just a little?


You need to be shaken up every once in a while. Otherwise, you’ll become complacent and comfortable and coast. The dreaded three C’s.

Complacency is being ok with being ok; staying stagnant and not evolving. That goes against everything in nature as everything in nature is constantly evolving and growing and going through cycles.

Comfort is a cousin of complacency. Comfort will lure you in to a flat line of “everything is fine….neither good nor bad” kind of state. Where do you grow from that? It almost blinds you and stunts you.

Coasting is a Great Aunt of complacency and comfort. She’s been around a looonnng time and she’s been surviving off of comfort and complacency–watching the years and opportunities she wishes she participated in pass her by. Coasting is like dipping your baby toe in the water when the rest of your spirit is screaming to jump in.

Well, the beautiful thing about this little life of ours is our “Wake up Calls”… the little nudges that prods and pokes us to come to a level of awareness that we can no longer ignore. In any moment we can change our thoughts and put action toward them.

You are not your shortcomings. You are not your past mistakes. You are not your (what you deem to be) failures.

You are a work in progress. And progress you shall. You are interesting and intricate and useful and quirky at times. You have value. You have awareness.

Now, what I gently (and firmly because I’m in duality like that) suggest is that you pause for a moment and check in to see where you’re at. Are you partaking in the “Dreaded Three C’s” play or are you creating, collaborating, and collecting new adventures?

I cannot stress enough how much your 92 year old self does not want you to fall into the trap of monotony. He/She is begging you to seek life, beauty, vastness, growth, and change on a constant basis. Even if it’s just little things. It will make a huge impact on your today and on your future.

I think you’re swell. And I think you’ve got it in you.

It’s in the back of your mind. Yes, that little thing that’s niggling to come out…that’s YOU trying to break out and change course. Make you a priority. Make that little voice a bloomed and magnificent flower.

I always believe in you.

With total certainty,

Lindsay M.

Hustle and Flow

Sunday morning blog, dear friends. Please grab your morning choice of beverage and cozy up with me and my thoughts.

Sometimes I get angry. Most of the time I’m pretty even keel; pleasant in mind and spirit. But sometimes, I get really angry. I want to exam our anger today. Amongst other things.

Anger is a real emotion. Its derivative is usually stemmed from hurt, unmet expectations, and disappointment. It’s a cutting emotion that comes up in various sorts of ways. Sometimes we lash out, sometimes we hold it in, and (my least favourite) sometimes we get passive aggressive.

We have ALL been hurt before. We have all had anger. You and I and everyone on here have probably experienced some sort of every emotion available.

Emotions come and go. They move through us as they should.

But anger, now that’s a tricky one.

Anger in your heart can be devastating to your health and mental well being. It can manifest physical ailments if you harbour it. I’m a big believer in expressing to someone how you feel—effectively.

Use words like, “I feel this way when this happens…” or “I want to tell you how I’m feeling.”

Common sense, yes. But so often in anger we are quick to make the other person wrong and when have you ever seen that go over well when someone is quick to jump down another’s throat?

I’m watching my life shift. People are coming in and out of it. Some friendships are dwindling and some are lighting up. That’s the nature of things. You put into relationships/friendships what you can and if it’s reciprocated, great! If not, thank you for the lesson.

But, my dear readers, remember that you are worthy to be loved by those whom you surround yourself with. Please do not surround yourself with people who don’t see your greatness and value. You don’t need to be something more grandiose than what you are today. You’ll find your tribe. I have often said that I’d rather have four quarters than a hundred pennies.

We are not perfect. We are not always going to be everything to everyone. That’s exhausting and unrealistic.

I’m watching unexpressed anger and emotions dissolve relationships and friendships. Yes, unpleasant emotions are tough to confront, but remember, you will always feel lighter if you express it in an effective way.

As Will Smith once wrote and sang:

“Hate in your heart will consume you, too…”

I invite and challenge you today to exam your heart and see where you’re at. Maybe call up that friend that you’ve been meaning to apologize to. Maybe gently confront that family member who wronged you. Whatever it is, don’t hold on too hard. I promise you’ll feel better with open and honest communication. You’re safe.

With a helpful nudge toward your wellbeing,

Lindsay M.

Mr. Worry

Sunday morning blog time, friends! Grab yourself a cup of tea/coffee/rum and eggnog (too soon?) and have a lookie-loo into the thoughts I want to share on this rainy November Sunday.

Do you worry? Do you overthink? Do you spend time feeling anxious over things that haven’t happened but you’ve created in your mind? Do you wake up in the morning sometimes and immediately your headspace goes to yesterday’s troubles or tomorrow’s fears?

You’re not alone. 99.9% of us go through that at some point in their lives. It’s a discomfort that most of us think we battle alone. Yet, day by day, we put on that “mask” or “veneer” so that we appear ok and that our anxiousness isn’t getting the better of us; so that we can portray to the world that we are fine.

Guess what? If you’re struggling with thoughts like that, there is something you need to look at. There’s something that is not in alignment with your ideals and expectation of what you feel to be true for your life and well being. Maybe there’s a part within you that is coasting along and not feeling a connection to the here and now.

We are created to live fully present in the moment and to flow with everything. We cannot transport into the past nor future (yet 😉) but we are created to be fully alive and aware right…now.

Where has your worry, anxiety, fear, self doubt ever taken you? Probably onto the path of MORE worry, anxiety, fear, and self doubt.

And we fight it, you know. We have a strong determination to fight the worry and give it so much attention. It’s true what they say,

“What you put your attention on, you will create.”

Look, you guys, I can be a notorious worry wart. I tend to overthink and sometimes feel hyper aware of all the things happening around me and within me.

What I challenge us to do this week is to look within and confront these worries and then put into action some mindfulness techniques to bring us to the present moment which is much healthier on our psyche. Enjoy the richness that is around you in this very moment.

Do a step toward aligning yourself to your authenticity and vibration of what feels harmonious to you. You don’t need to go too steep of a gradient; baby steps are ok.

You will start to open up and be receptive to less worry (and I’m not talking about not caring–two different things) and you will start to feel more connection to the flow of life. You are all a part of it–make sure you’re awake and not in the past that has passed nor in the unknown future. Be here. Now.

Sending love and calming chamomile tea to your wee souls,

Lindsay M.

You’re worth it…

You’re worth it…

Sunday morning blog time, loves. Please grab whatever beverage you need to get you through this and away we’ll go! 
Stop being ok with mediocracy. 
I’m talking about the kind of bullshit story that we repeatedly tell ourselves over and over again to make complacency feel ok. 
I met a man last night that lost his wife three months ago. He was on a cocktail cruise by himself and I was drawn to ask him why he was by himself; no judgement. Just curious. With tears in his eyes, he told me that he lost his wife three months prior and that they were scheduled to do this cruise tour together. And she had encouraged him to do all the things they were going to do and…that she would still be with him.
That is love. That is devotion. That is divinity. It doesn’t die. 
Love like that. Love like you care immensely for that person. There are certain things in life to be semi blasé about and love ain’t one of them. 
Look at your career. Sure, we can complain until the end of the day that 

we need a paycheck to survive but it’s time to look deeper. Are you satisfied with where you spend 8-10 of your waking hours? If not, responsibly look at your life and seek action to take charge of your own precious and beautiful time given. You can’t get that back. 
Friendships. Don’t hang out with people who bring you down and who make it about themselves constantly. You will start to pick up on these traits when they never ask you how you’re doing or check in to see how you’re feeling, etc…I would rather have four quarters than a hundred pennies. Your energy is valuable. There’s a saying that says, “You are the average of the five people you spend time with.” Choose your friendships wisely. 
Your health.’re in a body. It’s operating. I’m not saying that we should be militant 100% of the time, but eat your veggies, stretch, move around, and drink water. I tell you this as I tell myself. So often we forget to take “me time” just to solely operate on our physical well being. Let’s stop doing that. 
Read books. Expand your mind. Learn something new. 
Don’t coast through this journey. We are all not getting out of here alive so we might as well live up to our personal potential. I feel it’s time to wake up and start cutting out the mediocracy and start being more mindful about each 24 hours we are given. 
Raise your awareness. You’ve got this. 
With a smidgen of tough love,

Beware the Pedestal 

I’m going to give it to you straight. Beware the dreaded “pedestal syndrome”

When someone cannot see any of your imperfections at first and you are “high on ‘love’..” that is so scary. Because there is only one way to go when you’re on a pedestal. And that is down. 
Find someone who loves you, stays devoted to you, and won’t give up on you even when you’re feeling unlovable. Because that’s when we need it the most.