I awoke today with lightness in my heart. It’s rare these days to feel that truly past our mid-20’s, isn’t it?
I find the older we get, the more we are “in our heads” and life just seems to pass us by.
My theory on that is when we are young, everything around us is so new and fresh to our eyes. We take in colors and songs and games like sponges. We are so in the moment because we are living with full awareness. Days seem to go on forever and we maximize our time.
Once adulthood hits, though, we withdraw into our mind. We have more responsibilities and we focus more on our past, our bills, our anxieties, and our unfolded future.
By the end of the day as an adult, we wonder where that day went and why the months and years and decades seem to speed up the older we get.
It’s because we may have lost the set of fresh eyes that we once had.
My advice, dear reader, is to always seek out new experiences and challenges. Create a life for yourself that allows you to be present in the moment. Go outside more. Study the trees swaying, look up to the clouds. It can even be as simple as switching up your radio station for your morning commute.
We have this one life (that we know of) and it will be over one day. Fill up your days with simple pleasures.
Time just may slow down a little.
With love always,
Blog time, guys and dolls! I have my usual Earl Grey tea with my usual splash of vanilla almond milk. Grab your drink du jour and let’s get on with this.
Relationships are the number one topic that I discuss with people. And I would like to think that know a heck of a lot about them.
One of my careers that I have chosen to do is be a hairstylist. I am going on my 17th year of being one. (I started when I was 5…kidding.) Over those 17 years, I have developed bonds with my clients and they share their innermost thoughts, experiences, and feelings with me. I take it with great honor and respect. I will never divulge specifics (your confessions are safe with me) and I do not judge at all. There is a safety within that. A confidence which is given.
Back to it….relationships.
Men and women are very different but from what I have observed, we have similar end goals; to love and be loved. We WANT it to work out. We WANT all that romance, splendor, adventure, twitterpation, challenge, growth, connectedness and companionship.
So why is it that there are so many heartbreaks, heartaches, sad songs and Sylvia Plath-esque poetry out there?
My first instinctual response to that question of why it doesn’t work out between lovers so often is that we live in what I call “The Instant Gratification Nation.”
People have become disposable and we have a ‘what’s next?’ attitude and our access of communication has become more digital and technological.
Everything is literally at the tips of our fingers and special events can happen so fast these days.
Sometimes when relationships are too quick to blossom, they are usually quick to wilt.
My second instinctual response to that question is “But these events, love songs, poetry and heartbreaks have been happening since the dawn of time..not just the instant gratification nation.”
Personally, the best artwork and writing I ever created was shortly after a breakup that came out of left field. It shook my very core yet it created the most beauty I’ve ever seen in my life.
Men and women have been butting heads since the beginning. History has proven that time and time again.
Therefore, it’s not just a generational occurrence…
Granted, I do think that people are more quick to jump out of a relationship when it doesn’t deem to fit their needs/wants or desires anymore these days.
People think there’s a freedom with so many choices.
But then there are those beautiful relationships. The ones where there is that click. The foundation is friendship, trust, respect and loyalty. The ones where you know that person has your back no matter what and you have their back no matter what. Your life is brighter and more complete with them. You were perfectly content on your own but their presence in your life enriches it to a deeper level and it has more meaning and value. It has sacredness. You feel protective of your significant other and your dynamic.
I have always equated relationships to be like a smoothie from Booster Juice. You taste amazing just as you are, but the relationship is like the added Booster shot that enhances flavor and performance. The key is being ok on your own, but fully welcoming something that will coincide on a grand scale.
My former pastor said something that really resonated with me.
“If you think the grass is greener on the other side, you are not watering your own grass well enough.”
The raw truth is that in every relationship, you will have moments of where you think the grass is greener on the other side. It’s human nature. But if you just tend to your grass more in those moments, you will be amazed in how it will grow.
Relationships are so unique, special and enthralling. They can create the highest of highs and the lowest of lows.
The advice that I give my clients, friends, self , and now you is pretty consistent…
Know yourself and work on yourself first. Become your own best friend and know your needs, hearts desires and life musts. Be fulfilled with that and you will attract a like minded and suited partner who is at a healthy state as well. Do not look for someone who will be everything for you or make them your everything. That is too much expectation for one person.
And love. Love profusely. Love deeply. Love beautifully.
Love is a verb.
Blog Time, ladies and gents. Hopefully, you have a cuppa coffee/tea in your hand and are in your comfy spot. I’m writing to you today from the comforts of my bed with a glass of water by my side.
We are all allotted the same 24 hours each day. What we choose to do with it is our choice. The beautiful/sad thing is that we don’t know how many of these 24 hour days we are allotted in our lifetime.
So…go out and do what you need to do…If you want to.
This is a recurring theme in my blogs but I cannot reiterate it enough.
We now live in a time where we have so much access and resources to find ways and knowledge to live the life you desire and provide for you and your family.
We also live in a time where there’s heavy inflation, we don’t make enough, there’s so much debt, etc….
My advice to you ,and this is part of my personal journey and growth, is to become educated with your financial literacy. If we spent half the time we did on devoting to reading or learning about the game of money that we did on social media, we would become much more financial savvy.
So, if that’s what is holding you back in life, learn ways and skills to empower you and, in turn, you will demonstrate that onto your offspring. They will then learn skills to get them through this tumultuous and unforeseen future.
We have more tools and assets than we give ourselves credit for. Use them. Believe that you have them. Because you do.
I truly believe in if we shift our focus on any area of our life, that part of our lives starts to get optimal results.
For instance, I just started an exercise class. Throughout my years, I have relied on my high energy and fast metabolism to stay “in shape”. But then I thought to myself that I want to see what my body is capable of. I want to push myself and become stronger and more flexible.
So I’ve been showing up to class 2-3/week and even though it is tough, I’m seeing changes. I have shifted my focus and am already seeing results.
Your thoughts and intentions will take you there.
Haven’t you noticed the patterns in your life? Where your thoughts go, you go?
I love the quote, ” Whether you think you can or cannot, you’re right!”
This is a tough love blog today. And, as I write this to you, I write it and journey it myself.
Thank you for walking this journey with me, friends.
2017…it’s yours for the taking…but only if you want it.
It is 2017 and I have my very first laptop.
I know, I know…I’m a little behind the times. I may be a bit of a late bloomer.
I have been personally blogging every Sunday morning on my Facebook page for two years now. With my 2000+ followers, I have found it to be very fulfilling and I feel as though I have a lot to say and to share. Time and time again, it had been suggested to me that I start a blog. I don’t know why I have held back now that I am here with my laptop and my thoughts.
Was it my computer illiteracy that I was nervous about? Yes.
Was it that there potentially be a fear that now I am open to the public and before I was safe within the walls of Facebook? Of course.
We all have goals and items on our check off list that we want to obtain. My goal for this year is to get all my stories out and share my thoughts and insights with you. I feel very in tune with this and I am excited to share my journey and ideas.
I appreciate you, dear reader, and I look forward to connecting myself to you with my words.